converting (Islam) of non malays.

To my opinionn is that any family member before converting must get their family,s consent.Anything that is done without the knowledge and apporaval by the family is to be considered invalid.Both parties husband/wife if anyabody convert his/her marriage cannot be disolved in the muslim court but must be reffered to the civil court.Futhermore children that is below 18 years cannot be converted.Property and other rights are to be decided by the parents and not the religious department.